Long distance relationships – does it work?
Long distance relationships or commonly known as LDR in forums, is a very hot topic for discussion, be it online or offline among youngsters.
A close friend of mine back in Ukraine used to have a bf back in Malaysia, and just a few months back, the relationship ended. It lasted for 4 years, quite a long period of time in my opinion. I believe she loved her bf a lot, even to the extend of sacrificing her friends for him. The whole relationship started to turn sour when another person came into the relationship ie : the bf got involved with another girl. I saw the progress of the whole relationship, from being love birds to breaking up. Everyone knows that trust is a core factor in a successful relationship but the question is how many of us can do it ? Even in normal relationships, some ppl have problems being frank with each other, what more LDR?
It wasn’t the only LDR that didn’t work out, I’ve a few other friends who were in LDR and most of them broke up. I used to be very skeptical in LDR but just recently I started one. To me, trust is not a big problem between me & my gf. I know I can trust her but the problem is we have very little time together.
It has been a hard time for both of us this summer since she started her practicals in Singapore, while I’m doing mine in Seremban GH. We’re separated whole year long and the only time we’ve is during our holidays. We only have 2 months to spend every year for the following 2 years and 1 more year before she graduates. She always reassure me that we’ll go thru it together, of course I would love to see this relationship blossom. Maybe I’m just being ‘emo’ . Of course now if you ask me would a LDR work my answer will be it depends on the couple. If they want things to work, I’m sure they’ll try hard to make things work, giving and taking along the way and on the other hand if the 2 individuals do not try to accept & adapt to each other, problems will arise in no time. In fact it applies not only to LDR but all other relationships.
I can’t predict the future, but for now I’m confident that my current relationship is progressing well and I hope it’ll last. Phew, I feel better after ranting…
Bi, I agree with u that LDR depends on individual..
I’m willing to try my best to make things work and I wish u can be the happiest man! phew..dun worry we will face everything together! I’m with u!
I know you’ll try your best in our relationship and at the same time, I also hope you’re the happiest girl when you’re with me. =)
Don’t be so emotional. when u believe in her and you trust her, everything will be jus great! the string that holds the LDR is the trust and it’s always the loss of trust that brings all the troubles when you start questioning. God bless.
@Lord of justice
Thank you for leaving another comment. I would say getting emotional during a relationship is unavoidable for me. It’s not that I don’t trust my gf and what you mentioned in your comment has ady been written.
This is just a rant, so don’t take things to seriously.
i’m 16years old and i live in the uk bt i originate from south africa, cape town. in 2005 wen i went down to cape town with my family i met this guy there we liked each other alot! after a month with him i had to come back to the uk and as time went on we started to feel feelings for each other we never felt bofore and in 2007 we went down again this time it was like we didnt no each other we had our first kiss then but still it was like we didnt have time for each other because i was to busy catching up with my cousins so i broke it off with him!wen i came bk to the uk we got back into contact and he told me how much he still loved me.. and it felt real and i felt the same bout him, but im not sure if it will work out between us because of the distance! can someone give me advice about wat i should do!
@capetowngirlie
Wow, I didn’t know my blog is now a relationship portal. Well you’re still young to me, so take ur time. Distance is always a barrier for relationships, and like how i mentioned in my post, it depends solely on how the individual manage the relationship. So good luck!